Look, lets face it, wherever you are, you want to step it up. How bad you "need this" stepping it up says something about who you are. An intermediate guy feels needy towards it, and an advanced guy can accept "some days will be good, some not so good." Are you an intermediate guy who wants to be more in advanced? Chill out a bit. There's no rules, but if you're getting emotional now as you read this, you're probably not "advanced." If you have ups and downs, you're not "advanced." I knew I was getting more in the right zone when I started realizing that everything was hilarious. Everything is funny. Humor about everything means you don't take yourself or anyone else seriously, and thats the right way to be going. Of course, there are situations that catch you off guard, but thats OK. You want to realize, you're not excited when you get laid and on the flip side, rejections don't cause your emotions to change too much either. Its just another day at the office.
Sometimes I still do look "intermediate." This comes out mainly in the workplace, as its an artificial social environment, where I'm letting someone else dictate the rules. The truth is I can still be alpha or whatever there, its more of a lack of interest in spending the emotional energy navigating that landscape.
This is basically the definition of "advanced" dude: (i) blowouts or lays do nothing to your sense of self, (ii) its not easy to make you laugh or get excited and its not easy to piss you off or hurt your feelings, (iii) either you're a chiller dude with a smirk all the time, or you're cracking jokes cuz everythings funny, (iv) you "know who you are" to the point that people can't play to your ego or stomp on it either, (v) your self is truly always coming through, whether you're "acting" like an ass, or "acting" like a nice guy.
The gameplan to getting to "advanced" will involve small steps, over and over again. For example (i) talk to girls daily, is this that unintuitive? (ii) stop caring so much about what they respond with and focus more on what you do, by listening to Jed Mckenna, (iii) have specific focus in your game for long periods of time, and only worry about that small ASPECT of your game.
I'm sure these actions are pretty specific to me. You might not have very much "ego attachment" and so the Jed Mckenna might not be so relevant. You might just have a very low drive to action but not care about getting anything all that much, in which case someone like Tony Robbins might be more relevant for you to be listening to all the time. Regardless, figure out your own highest leverage actions, as these are my own. Figure it out, and then do it.
Sometimes I still do look "intermediate." This comes out mainly in the workplace, as its an artificial social environment, where I'm letting someone else dictate the rules. The truth is I can still be alpha or whatever there, its more of a lack of interest in spending the emotional energy navigating that landscape.
This is basically the definition of "advanced" dude: (i) blowouts or lays do nothing to your sense of self, (ii) its not easy to make you laugh or get excited and its not easy to piss you off or hurt your feelings, (iii) either you're a chiller dude with a smirk all the time, or you're cracking jokes cuz everythings funny, (iv) you "know who you are" to the point that people can't play to your ego or stomp on it either, (v) your self is truly always coming through, whether you're "acting" like an ass, or "acting" like a nice guy.
The gameplan to getting to "advanced" will involve small steps, over and over again. For example (i) talk to girls daily, is this that unintuitive? (ii) stop caring so much about what they respond with and focus more on what you do, by listening to Jed Mckenna, (iii) have specific focus in your game for long periods of time, and only worry about that small ASPECT of your game.
I'm sure these actions are pretty specific to me. You might not have very much "ego attachment" and so the Jed Mckenna might not be so relevant. You might just have a very low drive to action but not care about getting anything all that much, in which case someone like Tony Robbins might be more relevant for you to be listening to all the time. Regardless, figure out your own highest leverage actions, as these are my own. Figure it out, and then do it.
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